"Nice Guys"

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Like a lot of women, I was attacked before because I turned down a "nice guy". And I find it really annoying that women are criticized in general for doing so.

A nice guy. But not only.

I mean the idea of "women turn down nice guys but end up with abusive/ bad ones" is popular to an extent. Or at least, people show a disapproval when a woman turns down a nice guy. 

But what is a "nice guy" anyway? Respectful? A guy who cares about a girl? A loyal guy? A decent guy? 

According to Mahi: "A nice guy is never enough. If I meet a guy and describe him as "nice but..", he's not for me, and that's it."

Are we supposed to date those guys simply for showing us basic human manners? Why are we expected to be with someone just for being nice? That's so degrading. It's like you're saying "Be grateful he's not a terrible, abusive man". Women deserve to have standards and requirements, because we have different tastes and different needs.

I met so many "nice" guys whom I couldn't stand being with them in the same postal code for long! 

I'm not trying to bash anyone, but hear me out.

As a young woman, it's not enough for me to meet a "nice" guy to be attracted to him and then boom date him! It does not work like that. In short, I have a type, some standards and requirements. Maybe a younger version of me would've accepted a nice guy, but not now-me.

I've met nice guys who were so different from me, who had different interests and goals in life. Others were really not attractive to me. Of course the physique is not the most important aspect of a person but still. Other guys had a bad/ different sense of humor. And the list goes on.

Why are women expected to accept the bare minimum in a relationship? We deserve to have standards and aspire for a healthy and happy relationship, not just a relationship. Or a mediocre, boring one.

Not to mention that, women are expected to want to get married as if it's mandatory, but that's for another article.


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